41 weeks (plus)

Even though the median length of pregnancy for first time moms with uncomplicated pregnancies is 41 weeks 1 day, I very much expected to have this baby by now.  But instead I’m still pregnant.

As the days roll by I’m finding more to worry about in the middle of the night, primarily regarding the health of the baby.  So I took it upon myself to do a little research today, and as I suspected, there is lots of support for the case for waiting for labor to start naturally on its own, in the absence of signs of fetal distress. The baby has been moving well and I’m seeing the midwife twice a week to be sure all is well with him, so no worries as yet of him having any trouble.

That said, I’m ready to move on the next phase of this journey, and get this baby out here into the world.  And we’re planning to have him at home, which may still be possible if I hit 42 weeks, but gets a little more complicated due to a variety of issues.

Despite my eagerness to have the baby, though, I have no regrets about quitting my job at 37 weeks. Granted, I very much expected to need the time before the baby came to get the house ready and clean and de-stress myself. Instead I’m now on my third time through the house-cleaning cycle, and am more stress-free than I’ve probably been in my entire adult life, and have probably watched more TV in the last month than I had in the last 2 years. But it’s also been a kind of special golden time to be at home, practicing being a housewife, and spending lots of time with Jeremy in our last few days as just-the-two-of-us.

Moving forward I’m not really sure what I’ll be doing with this blog. I’ll obviously have lots more mommy-related things to discuss than I used to. I have no idea how much time or motivation I’ll have to do any writing here. I thought it would be a great place to get down my thoughts throughout this pregnancy but that didn’t really happen.

If anyone’s still reading, I’ll see you around at some point!

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28 Weeks

I’m 28 weeks pregnant, and this blogging while pregnant thing has really not been happening.

In my defense, work has been extremely busy, and while most folks talk about the 2nd trimester being the golden stage of pregnancy, it was not so easy for me.  Unless by golden they mean lots of aches and pains and not sleeping. Strangely, now that I’ve entered the third trimester, I’m feeling much better. (Although maybe I’m just managing it better.)

The Fetus Has a Penis

Guess what, the baby is a boy! (Jeremy announced it to our friends and family with a facebook post that said just what the title of this section says.) I’m finally starting to get used to the idea of a little boy with a little penis growing inside me. I think because I only have a sister I just assumed I would have a girl. That and the fact that about 5 random people guessed that the baby would be a girl. Based on absolutely no evidence of course, but you hear something enough and it starts to feel true.

Jeremy’s stoked to be having a boy (aren’t all men?), and I’m just stoked that we’re having a baby either way.

The Work Thing

One of the big dilemmas for me during the second trimester was what to do about my job. The last couple of months were a really stressful time at my job, with more work than one person could reasonably do.  As soon as I recovered from my first trimester illness woes, I started working 60-70 hour weeks just stay afloat at work. For some folks it’s not busy until you’re working 80 hours or more, but for me, the hours I was putting in were completely out of balance and unsustainable. I need time to craft, cook, clean, and just dream and do nothing, and I didn’t feel like I had time for any of that. I suffered and I’m sorry to say that Jeremy probably suffered a bit too.

And my thoughts inevitably led to how this kind of job would work out after the baby comes, and I got really clear that I have no interest in working that much when we have a baby. I’m a huge fan of attachment parenting, and the whole going back to work full time after 4 months just doesn’t make sense to me and how I want to care for this baby.

So, after 4.5 years I’m going to resign from my job. Jeremy’s supportive of me taking at least 6 months to just be with the baby, and then we’ll see. I couldn’t be more thrilled to have the freedom to do this. I’m hoping I’ll figure out some way to work part time or do some contract work once the time comes, but we’ll see how it works out. For sure I’ll have six months were my only three jobs will be mom, homemaker, and wife, and at the moment that sounds like a pretty full and wonderful life.

On Taking Care Of My Body While It Grows Another Body Inside Of It

I’ve quit doing CrossFit. I’ll just come right out and say it.

I was unpleasantly surprised with how many aches and pains this pregnancy created in my body, and right in the middle of the second trimester when everyone kept asking me how great I felt. I’m afraid I was a bit of a complainer for a while there. It peaked on Thanksgiving weekend when I didn’t sleep for a whole night and started bawling at 5 am when Jeremy pulled the covers back that I had stolen. That was the morning I discovered the “pillow throne” (as I like to think of it, I feel like an aging queen all propped up in bed – it’s a pile of 3 or 4 big pillows so I’m semi-reclining).  It’s not really that comfortable, but for whatever reason it allows me to sleep.

When my back and hips were so tense like that, it just didn’t make sense to go lifting barbells, so I decided it was time to stop CrossFit. I hoped to be one of those women I’ve read about who stays ultra-active right through childbirth, but that’s not the way it’s gone.

And really I’m actually OK with it. One thing I’ve learned from my midwife and our prenatal group meetings is that when you’re having a baby you can prepare yourself as well as possible, but you can’t plan everything. Things will happen as they happen. I’m growing a new person and it’s at the same time one of the most commonplace and one of the most profound things a woman can do.

Funny enough, now that I’ve hit the third trimester, I’m feeling ten times better. I even went to the gym this morning, and although I’ve certainly lost some strength already due to not working out for a month, I feel great.

I do have a few of the typical pregnancy complaints, namely swollen ankles, shortness of breath, and a tendency to get tired, but these all feel like an easy enough burden to bear when growing another person from scratch, no? I’ve also gained about 22 pounds so far, and my body feels like that’s probably the right amount, so I’m happy with it.

Blogging

I make no promises at this point. I’d love to blog regularly, and get back to posting about our garden (it’s a mess!) and chickens (they’re doing great!), and writing up recipes again, but who knows what life has in store. Blogging doesn’t usually come first, it gets bumped when other bits of life clamor for attention. Plus I’m guessing I’ll be a little busy once the baby comes.

So if you’re still reading, thanks! It’s so great have you here! I’ll try to post more stuff, someday, maybe even soon!

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What’s New?

Hey people! Sorry I’ve been so silent around here. You see, I’ve had something on my mind that has prevented me from writing about anything else. A bit of a secret. People ask “What’s new?” and I have to say, “Oh nothing much,” when really on the inside I’m yelling, “Something exciting!!” And blogging is like one big ‘How are you? What’s going on?’, so I’ve been avoiding it.

So what’s this secret? Maybe you’ve already guessed, but it’s a secret that you have to keep for 3 months and then you can’t really keep it secret any more, because it starts to become obvious.

Yep, I’m pregnant! If you know me you know that Jeremy and I have been trying for about a year and a half. I’d frankly become pretty sure it wasn’t going to happen naturally for us. But here I am, 14 and a half weeks pregnant.

The first trimester wasn’t too much fun. Nausea, heartburn, profound exhaustion, all that. I had great intentions of staying strictly paleo/primal while pregnant, but I sure wasn’t able to keep it up. I felt like I needed more refined carbs, and baked sweet potatoes weren’t cutting it. So I ate some rice, and some oatmeal, which devolved into a bagel or a pastry here and there.

I managed to get to CrossFit at least once or twice a week and either run or walk another 1 or 2 times a week, but there were days when it was rough.  And the nausea would be fine when I woke up early for CrossFit, but then after the workout it would hit me like a ton of bricks and I just wanted to go to bed.

The other thing that happened over the course of weeks 6-9 was that I rapidly lost 20-30% on all my heavy lifts.  My muscles just couldn’t move the same amount of weight.  It was an interesting experience after 7 months of continuous improvement, to suddenly be going the other direction. I think the body just redirects its energy though, and I’m fine with it.

Now that I’ve hit the second trimester I’m back to feeling like a normal person, eating has gotten easier and working out has gotten easier again too. In fact, today’s workout was Fight Gone Bad, and I got a respectable 199 reps. Probably not what I could have done pre-pregnancy, but not too shabby.

I’m also feeling more like a normal person in that I have energy for cleaning and cooking and laundry and such.  There were about 5 weeks in the beginning where it felt like I could just  barely get my job done at work, and that was all I had in me. Jeremy had to fend for himself for food and the house got really dirty. Lucky for me, he picked up the slack and kept the chickens cared for and the garden watered and a variety of other things that I was no help at all with.

As far as my diet goes, my appetite is healthy now, but my tastes have changed a bit.  I find I can’t stomach nearly as much meat as I could pre-pregnancy, especially beef. Which is ironic because we just stocked the chest freezer with another quarter cow from Holding Ranch. It’s some great tasting, really good quality beef, but I just don’t want it. Eggs, chicken, fish, and bacon are still sounding delicious, so I’m getting plenty of protein, just far less than before. One of my favorite pregnancy foods is plain yogurt.

So that’s the news with me. I was supposed to do the Tough Mudder tomorrow, but I’m skipping it.  Maybe next year!

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We’re practically self-sufficient at this point

I’m completely joking about self-sufficiency, we’re no where near that and not even shooting for it.  But this is damn eggs-citing!  (Haha, punny.)

Anyways, we found our first egg on Thurdsay after work, and we weren’t quite sure who layed it.  In the intervening 40 hours or so, we’ve found these three more, and by now we’re pretty sure which two are laying (Xena and Lucy).

For a little perspective on how teeny tiny these eggs are, here’s a pic of them in the carton with some jumbo eggs from the farmer’s market.

I used my digital scale to compare weights, and one of those big boys was 2.7 ounces, while our little new-girl egg was just 1 dainty ounce.

I’m pretty freaking excited to be getting such wonderful nutritious food items from our charming little pet chickens.  Chickens are the best!

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My Paleo/Real Food Day

I thought I’d try a little experiment and photograph everything I ate today, both to demonstrate what one person’s version of Paleo eating might look like, and also to see if I had anything to learn by seeing a visual representation of everything I ate in a day.  I didn’t take photos of any water I drank, but I got just about everything else. Continue reading

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Oh Hai There

We introduced my sister-in-law to lolcats speak yesterday, when Jeremy found an authentic opportunity to say “I can haz cheezburger?”.  (He wanted the leftovers on my plate.)  Jeremy and I and the cousins went on a long lolcats riff while poor Jennifer was left behind, wondering what was wrong with the rest of us.

We have a great 4th planned today, starting with a trip to the gym in an hour or so.  I spent much of last night laying in bed not sleeping because of the heat and pondering whether I should do the workout from the main CrossFit site today (a doozy of a hero workout called Morrison), scale it down, or just do some weight/skill work.  These are the things that occupy my mind in the wee hours between the neighbors towtruck starting up and the feral cats going at it.  Lucky for me, CrossFit Sunnyvale posted a workout today after all, so decision made.  It’s not easy, but I’ll do it (and LOVE how I feel afterwards). Continue reading

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The Latest on Me – a Fitness Update

I think I need me one of these t-shirts. Via Nom Nom Paleo.  I’m also loving her Clean Your Plate design.

At Crossfit Sunnyvale yesterday we worked on deadlifts and I got a PR at 233 pounds. That was pretty freaking awesome. Continue reading

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